On a fine day a young lady updates her status on Facebook saying that she has just quit smoking. Her Facebook friends would feel so happy about it without caring for the fact whether or not she ever smoked.
There is this big lot of individuals whose life is heavily dependent on internet. All they care is that somebody should know what he/she is doing, intends to do or has done.
The girl who I am talking about represents a kind that is alone, is always suffering from the inferiority, feels an eternal urge to be seen, heard or be attended to.
Is this the kind of youth that will build a great society? Certainly not! There is a fake-ness everywhere we look around, fake individuals, fake speeches, fake smiles and fake hugs etc.
I will use this girl’s example again and again (as she perfectly represents that ‘kind’) to emphasise upon my points. This girl had a break up from someone who she claimed to be very close, thought to marry him someday but things didn’t go her way and she decided to break up giving her own reasons.
The first thing she does is to put a banner on Facebook which reads, “……” is single. And her equally dumb friends responded with all digital sympathy (that means nothing more than punching some keys).
She then, talked to her ex one day and tried to make him believe that she was suffering every bit of it. It was very hard for her and she has become a chain smoker and had sleepless nights… and all the usual girl-boy stuff to make him believe that she was concerned and all.
After some day there is another banner on Facebook saying, “…..” is in a relationship. This all happened just within a month of her break up which supposedly was as severe on her as it was on the boy.
To this, many comments pour in, some common friends (that’s why I called them equally dumb) would react, “oh! Great, who is the lucky guy” and all the typical key board punching. All the digital emotion and happiness…
Let’s now see why this all is done. These people, especially the ‘kind’ I am talking about, are suffering from identity crisis. They want to be known and for that they will make friends who are just for the sake of it. They will fall into a relationship just till the time she is being seen in the college (or work place).
The problem of being heard and identified had taken all the humanity out of these people. Emotions are just as good for them as putting some “: -), : – (“ . Unfortunately they don’t know how to laugh beneath the skin. Their lips do move and move in the most attractive way but the heart cannot feel the warmth of that smile.
Social networking sites have limited the emotions which could heal anything. Interpersonal communication which would solve almost all the problems has vanished. People don’t discuss things face to face rather want friends to comment on the same on Facebook.
The ‘Likes’ make them feel proud and that they are something. It’s a feeling which comes from the fake-ness of personality that they possess and unwittingly believe that this is real ‘self’ for them. More the comments and ‘likes’ greater is the high they get.
They don’t know the difference between personal and public. Spilling your personal problems in a bid to gain sympathy results in laughter before desktops and laptops. Your so called friends might feel digitally bad and sad for you but emotionally the experience is not the same.
Rahim, a poet, writes:
“Rahiman nij man ki vitha, man hi raakho goy,
Suni athilaihey log sab, baant na laihey koy”
But the problem is they don’t know these lines nor ever tried to understand life in a better way. The generation of this ‘kind’ wonders how a black cow gives white milk!
This unusual, which is becoming usual, way of expression of feelings is very dangerous to the society. It makes you more empty, because you turn to computers when you need to talk. And if you don’t get the amount of sympathy you expect (that depends upon the number of comments on your status), you tend to get into a shell… start feeling alone and let down… you become more empty.
Before the void kills you and makes you completely emotionless, before you forget to stretch your lips to smile and instead punch a colon, dash and closing bracket… wake up from these shackles and take a breath of fresh air and try to feel the smile that you smile with the combination of your facial muscles and lips.