आसिक मासूक हवै गया, इसक कहावै सोइ।
दादू उस मासूक का, अल्लाह आसिक होई।।
(Aasik masook hawei gaya, isak kahawei soi
Dadu us masook ka, Allah aasik hoi)
~दादू दयाल (Dadu Dayal)
Love is not about ‘aur batao’ in the long nonchalant talks under the polluted skies where you can’t locate bright stars. It is not tagging each other to the level of other’s irritation. Love is not the random ‘crazy shit’ you do together. These are all the byproducts of ‘being in love’ which is confused as love itself.
In Islam, Mohammed kept the beard but he didn’t say anyone to keep the beard. It was not some symbolism or iconification of the beard in Islam as it has turned out to be. Followers, who loved Mohammed, wanted to become ‘like’ Mohammed, who was a way to reach the Almighty. It was trying to be the one that they loved.
Dadu Dayal, a Nirgun poet born in 1601, for whom Allah and Bhagwaan were alike, tells in relation to state of love that when the lover and beloved walk towards each other, seeking to ‘become’ each other, that is the true state of love. When you take one step towards the beloved (here God), He also takes one towards you. Similarly, when your beloved knows that you are seeking her (or him), she would definitely try to take one step towards ‘becoming’ you.
When we say lovers can communicate in silence, it is this oneness, this fusion of personalities where the level of understanding is so high that you just know what the beloved would reply, feel or do in a particular situation. This results in doing what the other would have loved to be done (but without the need of asking).
Dadu says, when the lover becomes the beloved, that is love. When this state of oneness is achieved, the God himself becomes the lover of the person.
This doesn’t apply just to the love of two people or the definition of love that we know. This is about how in seeking God, or truth, we need to get in to the skin of it. This is about ‘growing a beard’ inside. Each one’s way of doing it is different but the result is the same: oneness.